Destiny, serendipity, coincidences, luck, magic, soul mates, and whatnot. Being a rom-com lover and hopeless romantic, I fall for these concepts quite naturally. Well, I am not a religious person but I am a spiritual person. I do believe that there is a higher force making plans for us and guiding where we should be, the people we would meet in that path, and so on.
But lately, I have started questioning whether it's really all destined? Does that higher force has already decided all about my life?
I tried looking back at my own life to answer this question. And I got a reply.
Choices. Isn't whatever happening in our life more about the choices we make/made?
I wouldn't have tried doing something on my own if I didn't choose to leave a well-paying job. I wouldn't have done a one-month trip to Vietnam if I haven't booked the flight ticket. Apparently, I did make a choice.
But does making the choice make the rest of the things fall in place? Maybe yes or maybe not. What it certainly does is that it makes you start thinking for the next step. Not sure? If you have read my first post, you would know how I found myself. Let me take you to two of my life events. I left my job without actually figuring out what I would do next. I booked the flight ticket to Vietnam (Sept 2019) and thought that I would stay there for 15 days. But when I checked the return flight after receiving my visa, I found that the prices had gone high. Meanwhile, my friend too joined me for this trip. We both thought to utilize our one month visa and rather buy a cheap return ticket for a later date. And that's how 15 days trip became a one-month long trip.
In both these cases, I chose to leave a job, and visit a country. And whatever happened after that followed the initial choice I made. I could have chosen to pursue that well-paid job and not chose an uncertain path. I could have chosen to just buy an expensive flight ticket and may have come back home in just 15 days.
Aren't we all doing this all the time? Making choices one after another for the questions posed by our life. Or maybe we are finding the questions for ourselves and figuring out our answers with the choices we make. Maybe the universe is conspiring for all of us to be someone, reach somewhere, or meet someone. And it's completely OK to comfort yourself by believing in the higher power but that shouldn't restrict you to make a choice that your mind and heart agree to. I remember the first time when I resigned and joined again after a month. I get it that maybe it's about timing. But you have to decide to chose to wait all your life for the timing to be perfect. Or to muster all your courage to take that first step, step out of your comfort zone for just one time and see does it make the timing perfect for you.
So is it destiny or just you choosing things one after another? I leave that answer to you. I truly believe the higher force but I also believe that there is a force within each one of us to think, believe, and manifest our dreams. Our life is a chance for us to make things happen and that is certainly not gonna happen by chance.
Take care :)
This weekend, I am choosing to watch the movie Serendipity followed by Before Sunrise, and then The Shawshank Redemption. I do need to remind my romantic soul that life is not just about destiny. I need to ask that guy out if I chose to date him ;) I suggest you watch these movies but the choice is totally yours :)
I am also not leaving it to destiny and requesting you to sign up if you are liking what I am writing about. I equally appreciate Likes, Reshares or Comments :)
And yes, don't let this quarantine take over you. Choose to do just one small thing every single day to allow your destiny to manifest things for you. Magic is there but do remember that you are the magician :)
I would not say destined but surely serendipity and our awareness of what is around us makes all the difference.
Sometimes, it feels that our destiny is only created by us through the choices we make , just as you said. And sometimes, when those choices don't go right and make us lead somewhere else where we do no belong, then it makes us feel that may it's because of our destiny.
Always trapped up in this confusion 🙈
But your post was so much learnable and enjoyable to read!
Was actually waiting for this one !
Way to go ! :)