The one word that lies at the centre of my life is 'Freedom'. Whenever someone asks me what kind of life do you want, I say, "Mei azaad rehna chahti hoon/I want to be free."
Most of the time, it is interpreted negatively and more so because of the societal expectations set for a girl. Freedom for me doesn't mean doing anything and everything without being considerate of others. It also doesn't mean becoming a rebel and fighting for every damn thing. I would like to be at peace and consider myself as one of those persons who would like to stay away from arguments. Speaking is a task for me that I love doing only with a bunch of people ;) And this choice of mine is dependent on what kind of relationship I share with that person. Do I want to explain to that person or I am OK leaving them with their assumptions?
This blog is a reflection of my thoughts and life largely and I thought this is something I would love to write about. So here I go. For me, freedom has different connotations and it differs from its literal meaning.
Freedom to let go
It means not getting attached to someone's else idea of a perfect life. Can I define my parameters of happiness without being influenced by others? Can I let go of those borrowed desires? Can I let go of things that don't add value to my life? Can I move on without having the guilt of not being available for those who weren't available for me?
Freedom to own my story
Can I pursue what I desire? Can I tell my life's story without feeling overwhelmed? Can I let go of the fear of judgement even if I fail miserably at something? Can I be myself?
Freedom to work at my pace
I am not sold on this idea of being busy. I just hate it. I don't want to be busy doing stuff that doesn't satisfy my soul and provide me mental peace. I want to be free of this idea of being busy equated to being more and more successful. Can I set my work boundaries without being guilty of not working 24x7? Can I be available for myself and my family? Can I take a break whenever I feel the need to take one?
Freedom from any gender-specific roles
Can you and I coexist without being called out to do something because I am a girl? I become a rebel for this one specifically. I feel we can achieve so much more by coexisting and doing things as in when needed. Life would be much simpler if the one reaching the home first can set up the dinner rather than waiting for the female counterpart to do that no matter what time she arrives and how she feels after a long day at work. I believe we should all equip ourselves with life skills no matter what sex we belong to but we shouldn't be forced to do something because we belong to a specific sex.
Financial freedom
Can I achieve a stage when I am financially free and my investments pay for my life's basic needs?
This is what I mean when I say I want to be free. This is the ultimate goal of mine and everything I do revolves around attaining this definition of freedom. I love the below video captured by a friend on our random month-long trip to Vietnam and this surely visually expresses my definition of freedom.
What's your definition of freedom? I would love to hear from you. Feel free to share in comments, or via personal messages. Available for a chit-chat here. Stay home and take care :)
What I am up to?
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Not being answerable to anyone including myself for my actions. Every action, this does does effortlessly, unhesitantly. Any thing that reminds me of my earlier action takes my present freedom away from me, the freedom of being in present.